manipulation in Autism & disability advocacy

I wasn't going to make further posts on this blog but as there is some current online drama, I thought I would comment. Related to the collaboration post 'How to spot a fake autistic' by Shell Spectrum and myself. The post might sound like parody but it was actual observations of what I call 'fraudtistics' (those who claim to be diagnosed autistic, or somehow get an unconvincing diagnosis, after admitting no issues for years, then using this claimed diagnosis as clout, to make money from exploiting vulnerable people in online communities).

The improvised painting below was to cope with the stress of this ridiculous drama. Supersonic: flying away from toxic 'advocacy' faster than the speed of sound. With a sonic boom on the way out.
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Supersonic. Acrylics on canvas by Xanthe Wyse.

The Evidence, in context

I will post some screenshots of some of the latest drama, showing the kind of manipulation that happens. In this case, to smear myself and Shell. I expected there would be drama, as that's what happens when calling out someone for toxic behaviour. Except on some platforms, like Twitter, there will be direct abusive attacks by allies of the same ideologies.

I will post screenshots, in an approximate timeline, with miminal commentary. This is only a fraction if it. I no longer have a Twitter account but it's easy to see public posts without one. One of my 'special interests' is cult-like dynamics in religion and ideology. This is just one example, from many. This kind of reaction is so predictable, that it's boring.
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reported to the police

Adding an update to this blog post that I was reported to the police. One of Chloe's pals in Canada reported me to police so I had a visit from a police officer in New Zealand. I have a strong suspicion who it is, one of Chloe's pals and Connie's enemies, going from the online drama. I won't say who but my suspicion is an account with a silly name that has been involved in drama.

The allegation was that I was 'bullying and harrassing an autistic woman called Chloe, making her suicidal'. Chloe is in the UK. She has a long history of drama and issues.

Meanwhile, during this time, Chloe has been busy on social media with her crusade against myself and others and has also been using pity to ask for donations. It's no wonder suicide isn't taken seriously. If someone feels suicidal over being called out on a lie (and actual hate speech, against an autistic woman), then, perhaps they should consider therapy. Plus reconsider their decision to be an 'advocate.'

As for me, I'm done with being an advocate as I'm sick of the toxicity and non-stop drama. I decided I was done in April. 

You can see for yourself in this blog post what a pack of lies the allegations againts me are. The police officer said had already checked out my social media and I'd done nothing wrong. I even showed the screenshots. Reason I take screenshots it because I have had so many lies against me, so I even screenshotted what I'd actually said. Note that there will be claims that screenshots are 'out of context'. It's pretty obvious from the below who was doing the bullying and harrassing (not me).

The police officer said to block Chloe. Of course, this won't stop her supporters. I informed the constable that I would update my blog post to include this happened. Was told 'fine'. I have let police know that I don't want to know about any further false complaints as it's triggering for PTSD. I am sick and tired of harrassment from manipulative and abusive bullies.

This is ideology for you. Will actually do the bullying, then assume victimhood and waste police time. I was also doxxed recently, linked to this drama. Doxxing is making identifying private information about someone else public, with malicious intent. That's how much of a threat exposing the toxicity in ideology is.

It takes courage to share what happened to me and expose some of the manipulation, bullying and abuse that goes online. Police have not asked me to take anything down, as I have done nothing wrong.

Public lying

"Autistic Truth" aka Chloe is involved in non-stop drama. Here, making a lying comment about Shell Spectrum. Shell is diagnosed Aspergers Syndrome and has had clinically significant autism features since childhood. I also have clinicially significant features since childhood (PDD-NOS diagnosis) and choose to no longer call myself autistic. Some reasons are because of this and this.

Some neurodiversity advocates have been involved with drama with Connie, a parent advocate with different views to theirs. Shell is not Connie. Neither Shell or myself know Connie, personally. I've seen her account but I don't know her. I have seen Chloe and pals threaten to sue Connie for allegations made against her. Usual drama. By the way, I am not pals with Connie. 

​Regardless of that drama, this comment is disgusting. 'Autistic truth' is claiming to be autistic, while saying an autistic person doesn't deserve to live, and it subhuman, if doesn't subscribe to neurodiversity ideology. This is actual  example of hate speech, against a person who is autistic:

destroying reputations

This is part of a long rant by 'autistic truth', which was on Twitter and Facebook as similar posts. Rather ironic, after lying about Shell. Note the part '...just don't like someone and they're trying to destroy someone and their reputation.'

Spreading Lies

Part of the same rant. I can agree with this statement. Yet, it's hypocritical, as this is exactly what 'Autistic Truth' does. Perhaps Chloe should change name to 'Manipulative Liar.' It's not just Chloe, it's many, many others, I have observed, who claim to be austisic with no impairment yet do so much destruction in autism and disability advocacy.

​I am not even going to bother to name the bigger players who have already smeared me and who are always involved in some kind of drama. There's perceived power in followers if one can manipulate them to do the dirty work. Plus the potential to make money from it.

Calling OUt

I figured I would get some drama (as one does if calls someone out). But, I felt this needed addressing. I addressed Chloe directly, on Facebook. Under a post seeking sympathy, ironically complaining about being gossiped about. Very quickly, my post was deleted. So I posted again. I made it clear that I had seen (so no doubt so had many others) the lies about Shell and the horrible comments.

Hit some nerves

I had already looked at Chloe's public history. The claimed 'misdiagnosis' (that she actually admitted publicly) seems to fit as far as I can see. But autism is more trendy these days. I have deliberately not mentioned here what Chloe's 'misdiagnoses' are (that she repeatedly mentioned herself, plus repeatedly all the criteria that fit).

seeking me out to smear to others

Chloe was obviously rattled by what I said, as she sought me out and read the fraudtistic blog post, which I'd updated in the meantime with a quote, from her, at this stage, without naming her.

Now, I am accused of 'targeting' her. After she targeted Shell and lied about her publicly.

She'd obviously searched my name and page name as she replied to an older post by Charlie, who'd also lied in this post. I'd made no videos about her content. Giving her 'flack' was making a comment, which she'd also admitted was funny and supportive, but then went straight to backstabbing. Who needs friends like those? 

I used to be friends with Charlie (or so I thought) until she decided I must be 'transphobic' because I don't subscribe to gender ideology (stereotypes, medically transitioning minors, bunnygender etc). I didn't find out we were no longer friends until there was a public gossip session about me. She repeatedly publicly says she is not involved with drama, because she's worried it will affect her reputation and employment. Only, she's admitted she does set off drama.

I think Charlie has seen this post already as she has broadcasted private information about myself and someone else. Doxxed us. I was expecting something like this would happen after I publish my memoir, not before but I didn't expect her to stoop so low. Lack of ethics. Don't worry, Charlie, I won't publish details of your sex life and boring crap like that that you decided to tell me.  And no, I wasn't 'intrusive', like you are now publicly claiming. Get some therapy. Seriously.

This is why I have trouble trusting people. I opened up to Charlie after she told me some of her personal crap. And, no, Charlie, I haven't broadcasted your secrets to social media publicly or in DMs. She's since deleted her doxxing of me but the damage will have been done.

The latest is, that I am being added to a list of 'creepy' 'hetcis' autistic men who have trouble talking to woman. (Added as a 'cis' woman, even though I don't identify as 'cis'). Most of the online drama is from females, I've experienced (no matter what gender identity). 

Note Chloe admits to gossip and rumours '...heard she's transphobic from others'. This is to label me as a target for strangers to attack, without any understanding of the nuances of what my actual views are.

Yes, it is disgusting what goes on in the autism and disability advocacy communities. It's toxic. The blog post Shell and I collaborated on is not parody, it's observations. Seems blogs are not completely dead, as that post skyrocketed. Thanks for promoting my blog, Chloe. Bad publicity is still publicity. I don't get paid for it, unlike many who ask for donations for nothing but claiming an identity label.

past trouble

Chloe also had a public gossip session with Edgar aka Saf, who was one of the advocates who said I was 'kicked to the curb' back when I had the mob bullying in 2021. Because I didn't agree with 'self-diagnosis' amongst other things.

I still have archived a toxic cesspool over a thousand screenshots of the bullying by Edgar's pals which resulted in severe suicidal ideation. My pyschologist advised me not to make the screenshots public, but I am thinking that I might make some more of them public, given I am turning my back on advocacy. Why not go out of advocacy with a bang?

Chloe is projecting and lying here ('tries to twist my words') plus looking for sympathy. I screenshot what I'd actually said. The 'rubbish' was the truth, confirmed with a screenshot of her own hypocrisy.

Exaggerating

I said to get mental health help. Chloe is in denial of medical diagnoses and believes autism fits everything. Yeah, been there, done that (I rejected my bipolar disorder diagnosis several times). Some disorders are more stigmatised but being in denial about them means that one does not get full help that is needed. Also, there is massive stigma here taking it as an insult. I am diagnosed with a mood disorder of bipolar disorder which I take meds for (which don't 'cure' it). Also diagnosed with a mental injury (PTSD), which I am still in therapy for.

MOre gossip

Yet a third person Chloe went to complain about, on an old thread. I had talked to K previously until I was blocked for being 'mean' (being too honest and also how dare I have symptoms of the disorders I am diagnosed with). Funny thing is, can see all the gossip, without a Twitter account. Who knows how much extra gossip. I don't really care.

Just noting the hypocrisy about complaining about being gossiped about, yet fishing for gossip.

The drama continues

'Autistic Truth' (should be called 'Gossiping Lying Hypocrite') is so threatened that I called out, directly (deleted by Chloe within minutes), that still on a rampage to smear me. Here, lying on a post by someone I don't know.

Drama Queen

I saw 'Autistic Truth' (more like 'Pathological Liar') go to at least half a dozen accounts to smear me. I had only confronted Chloe directly, reposting a few times after deleting. Most of the accounts had a beef with me because I didn't subscribe to their ideologies. They gossiped back. One, however, was a new (yet old) revelation.

Flying Swamp monkey

Now, this is where the drama leads to my ex's circle. So quite recently, a 'Swamp Witch' was gossiping about me, which of course, Chloe lied to. I haven't commented since on Facebook, since the initial callout, directly. This smear campaign, to goodness knows how many people has lead back to a flying monkey for my ex, Julz.

Julz, who got the awardwining pet sitting business I started from scratch for practically nothing. I used to consider her to be a friend. I trusted her with clients homes and pets. She has trolled me previously and obviously still gossips. Still scapegoats me. This is the kind of abuse I have been subjected to for years. It's no wonder I have trust issues after all this.

I have PTSD. I have been in therapy for years. I got nothing from the marriage of two decades. I lost everything. I am not afraid to tell the truth. The lies are that I did was ex did to me. I would not have seen this, had it not been for Chloe's drama.

I am thinking of releasing some of the public abuse from the mobbing from these online communities who preach 'inclusivity' but are horrible, nasty bullies. I have shared in this post, the drama from mainly one person. Multiply this by hundreds at once, then you get an idea of what these online communities are like.

What we have here, is three levels of abuse and scapegoating with the gossip. It's weird having so many people obsessed with me.

web of lies and gossip

Not quite sure why Swamp Witch aka Julz (could rename her self Bog Swamp Troll) decided to go to one of the main cyberbullies from the 2021 mobbing and lie that I had ranted about this specific account. Stir up more drama, no doubt in a massive smear campaign that has gone on for years. Only true part of this is that Julz does have anger issues and trolls on behalf of my ex who also has anger issues. Also, Julz is projecting. I am always on her mind, obviously.

Well, if these trolls and bullies all want to hang out together with their obsession and hatred, that's on them. Obviously, they have tediously boring lives.

Julz is still bleating on 8 years after my marriage breakup and she sided with my ex and the married woman he dumped me for (with 3 marriage breakups around the same time centred on her). Julz wasn't even there. All gossip. What is your problem, Julz? Why are you so obsessed with a disabled woman? Get some therapy.

liar liar pants on fire

Didn't take Julz long to notice that I had seen the public libel (I have only shown some of it). Denial and projection. Dunno why she is OBSESSED with me, after so many years, after I gave her so much (when I used to trust her 8-10 years ago. I even defended her and paid out of my pocket when clients wanted me to fire her). She's lying that I am 'bullying' her, after she was bullying me. When she's been one of the worst bullies online (and I used to know her, so I thought). Anyway, going to go back to ignoring her. Was quite by accident that uncovered another of her troll accounts, which mostly just hurls abuse at strangers.

victimhood

So after Chloe went on a rampage to smear me, uncovering one of my most persistent and annoying trolls ever (Hi Julz Swamp Witch), Chloe is now feeling sorry for herself. I made this post as an example, of what happens in the neurodiversity, autism and disability advocacy communities. Only, if on a platform like Twitter, there is also mob cyberbullying.

I have taken screenshots and put them into context. I even included screenshots of what I said, so you can see that it wasn't that bad. It was just simply calling out.

I hope the takeaway is that anything public can be seen by anyone. Yes, I also, saw Charlie dox me and someone else with something private I told her. It's very easy to see, even without a Twitter account (only I am not subjected to mobbing anymore, just smear campaigns). In my opinion, Twitter is one of the worse platforms for mob-bullying.

Doxxing is making private information about someone else public, with intent for malicious harm. I'm sure there has been plenty of gossip about me underground in 'private' messages. By the way, 'private' messages aren't necessarily private. Nor are 'closed' pages. I've had 'friends' screenshot something I'd said in a 'closed' space and put it onto a group of activists for them to mob-abuse me. I have no idea why people get so obsessed with me. It's weird.

I am currently writing memoir. It's a tricky process when writing memoir and I am taking great lengths to conceal everyone in the memoir. More than people usually would. I have never admitted publicly who is in it. In addition to the usual changing names, I'm avoiding use of political labels and leanings even. No family details. Not saying nationality. No obvious identifying details, at all. Not even saying what people look like.

It's really disappointing and mean-spirited that someone craps on my creative expression before I have even published it, because of crappy ideology. It's actually trying to steal someone's voice and crapping on their art.

Someone can act the role of a bully then accuse others of bullying. The ongoing drama is why there is so much hurt, toxicity and even trauma in online communities. You can count me out as an ally. I have become apathetic to it - I don't really care anymore, because of the endless drama and bullying.

Chloe is now using pity to try get donations (again), on the same day I get a visit from the police from a fake report that I was harrassing Chloe. I showed police the screenshots from the blog post. Police had already checked my social media. I have done nothing wrong. Committed no crime.
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Also, I have no connections with Connie. I know who the main person involved in drama is with Connie and I really can't be bothered naming this person, pals with Chloe. As merely calling out this angry activist for hypocrisy resulted in an aggresssive pile-on some years back, and there was so much drama. I was called a 'waste of space' during this first cybermobbing by what I consider to be a political cult.

​I've observed the bigger accounts get, the more destructive they can be, as they get their followers to do the dirty work. Always with lots of drama over their fragile identities and their desperate need for validation. Usually with loads of manipulation and victimhood.

More victimhood

So, predictably, a big public vent, about the blogger who made 'multiple' posts about her (some exaggeration). This is just a fraction of it, which of course got loads of sympathy. Expert level manipulation and victimhood. Plenty of validation from strangers. Also, mentioned yet again, the 'misdiagnosis' (which I haven't posted here), plus how meets criteria for it, yet also in denial.

Remember who started attacking an autistic woman who was locked and minding her own business? See first screenshot. Reminder of who started this and who did the actual hate speech and bullying of an autistic woman with a locked account:

Fishing for sympathy

And got plenty of it from strangers. I am allowed to have my opinion and I think the clinicians who 'misdiagnosed' diagnosed correctly. This kind of manipulative behaviour isn't autism. This blog post would not have even existed, had it not been for the extreme drama (way more than I expected). 

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and it continues...on public social media

Sigh. I'll just show police the screenshots in this blog post like I did last time. What a waste of police time and resources. Also, projection is when someone dumps their own issues onto someone else. Don't even need an account to see this. I no longer have a Twitter account. Haven't for ages. But it's still easy to see public tweets without one.

A confession as well, of who did the false reports. Remember, all I did was a simple call out (that's the risk). There's only one person who has been lying over several social media platforms (easily visible to the public without even needing an account). It ain't me.

There's even been hinting for wanting to raise funds to sue me over writing this blog post. Made very clear that me. I have only included a tiny fraction of it. It's abusive and I have been made out to be the abuser, by calling out. 

Police were apologetic when made the call the first time. I have done nothing wrong by writing this blog post that shows who the real bully is. Made it easy for you, Chloe. No need to screenshot loads of stuff, as it doesn't exist. Just give a link to this blog post to your attorney. Will be a waste of money, as I have done nothing wrong. A way to fundraise for pity, I suppose.

They constant lying for victimhood will catch up with you. I've seen it happen with other drama queens wrecking havoc on autism and disability advocacy for their own desperate need for validation of egos plus profit. It's no wonder no one takes autism advocacy seriously anymore. There is so much infighting over petty rubbish, that it will implode on itself. I'm not investing more of my energy into it.

According to my research of numerous sites, it is an offense in the UK to make a false report, wasting police time. Can be jailed for up to six months and/or fined. Chloe has admitted to making 2 false reports against me.

Allegations against me for harrassment etc won't even make it to court. There is no evidence against me. If I get another visit from police will just show this police the screenshots of who really did the hate speech, bullying and abuse. Like I did last time. Same if I am contacted by a lawyer. I will simply show the screenshots of who really did the abuse. There is no case against me.

I have already let police know to use their discretion before making more visits for these pathetic allegations. I am a disabled woman on a low income and good luck with trying to get any money out of me. (You won't).
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Revisit that 'misdiagnosis', hun.

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Sick game

Has obviously messaged the blog link to some pals. Projection, yet again (lies, twisted warped views). It's just a sick game. Well, I'm not playing anymore. There is no game when one person decides not to play and I already decided I was done with advocacy before even writing this post.

I would recommend not giving your donations and sympathy to these 'advocates'.

Note also the mocking with the time it has taken for me to make a transition from Bipolar Courage to Soar Purpose (an entire month, as there was a lot to process, a lot of loose ends). Anyone who understands autism spectrum features will know that transitions are very challenging. It's a 15-year advocacy journey I am moving on from (only in more recent years under Bipolar Courage).

I haven't had another visit from the police. Hopefully police in New Zealand will use their discretion in not contacting people over obviously fake allegations. Also, I hope UK police will look at pressing charges for those who deliberately waste police times over petty things.

Blog post is staying up, as I want people to see what this 'inclusive' community is like. Just like this, only multiplied by thousands. The main 'players' (over a dozen of them, all profiting from it) are scrapping amongst themselves, with lawsuit threats etc. What an utter joke. Pathetic.

Conclusion

There will be no conclusion really, as the drama goes on an on and on (for endless attention-seeking). I am not on Twitter now, (haven't been for a long time) mainly because of the platform being too prone to mob-bullying. As my psychologist said, 'bullies', not 'social justice warriors', 'activists' etc. Bullies. They do it as they don't feel good about themselves, so try tear someone else down to make themselves feel superior.

I made an example of Chloe here, predicting there would be a lot of drama, as I had seen her history but I have seen it happen time and time again with others. It's very manipulative - framing those who can see through the bullying as the bullies. I've had the empty lawsuit threats beforeby bullies. The sympathy to larger platforms is to try to generate abusive mob-bullying pile-ons by strangers.

I am not giving Chloe and pals any more of my attention. They feed off attention, even negative attention. I've got better things to do with my time and energy than this drama, which is multipled by hundreds at once on certain platforms.

I am trying to resist the urge of looking at any of the ongoing rubbish online (it's part of a very long 'special interest' spanning decades, in how people are captured into cults). It's a massive waste of my time. I have better things to do - like reconnect with my creative interests. Writing and painting. (I actually like to write about relationship drama, but not this kind of toxic BS).

Done with advocacy

I already decided I was done with advocacy (mostly about mental health) before I wrote this blog post. Of course, the drama continues. Advocacy is toxic and I have healthier things I'd rather do with my time. I am not exaggerating when I say I was an advocate for 15 years. My earlier blogs, hundreds of hours of effort, were deleted. Yet there are still snippets online, from when Xanthe Wyse was my blogging name, before becomeing my legal name.

Here are a few comments I'd made 12 years ago about the theories of an autism world expert. Back in 2011, when there was less drama and more rational discussions. Way before this massive explosion in self-diagnosis and hasty dodgey diagnoses and toxic 'advocacy'. To the current mess we are in now.

I know who the main players are, all making money from this racket of activism and bullying dressed up as advocacy (claiming to be autistic and claiming disability and admitting little to no impairment). I know how they operate. Same as this, only on a bigger scale. Not even going to bother naming them (but they interract with Chloe - same ideology), as the drama never ends. All for ego and profit. It's disgusting that a medical condition has been ripped off by those with agendas.

​Anyway, I'm done. I am not wasting my energy on it while it implodes on itself from all the infighting and corruption. "Neurodiversity" ideology has done way more harm than good.

I am proud to say that in the 15 years I did advocacy (mental health, autism, trauma, disabilities and even immigration), I did not accept even 1 cent in donations. 'Advocacy' is now corrupted by those who make money from it, for bullying others and exaggerating for pity, attention, validation.

Those in 'advocacy' aren't done with me

I'd really hoped that I wouldn't need to keep adding to this. I have attempted to step away from all the drama. Unfortunately, some are still obsessed with me. Given this post is now quite long, I have started another one:
'It's my blog and I'll write if I want to.'

hot air, rise above it

I will leave a pic of a painting I did when I felt annoyed with someone ranting on and on.
​'Hot Air - Rise Above It.' I wrote a little story to go with it. Hurt people hurt.

​I wish all the above people mentioned the best. I am not interested in being directly involved. Gossip is gossip. Don't believe everything you hear. Also, there's nothing wrong with seeking help for mental health issues. Also, I made a decision before writing this post that I am not going to bother with advoacy anymore. The abuse I've had over years is not worth it. ​

Mob cyberbullying over toxic identity politics (released some of the thousands of screenshots of the mob cyberbullying by the 'inclusive' bullying communities).

How to spot a fake autistic (the collab post that hit nerves so much that I was doxxed and a false report was made to police).

Anatomy of a dogpile (breakdown of how mob-bullying happens, from personal experiences of what happened to me).

I'll be on soarpurpose.com from now on (creative expression without the advocacy and political BS).